Truck_1_0_1_
I Don't Know, but I Have You!
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My condolences to your family; it's devastating to read about a tragic death like that
The questions/discussions you've posed are super grey and it looks like you're trying to make it a black and white situation (I may be completely wrong on that, so my apologies if my observation is incorrect), but I would say your mother's old perspective and new perspective, are both correct.
I'm in a job/industry that I never expected to be in and had no formal training/experience before coming into it (Finance). I'm not over the moon about my job, but I *far* from dislike it and I do enjoy many aspects of it, quite a bit. As for the money, I earn more than my mother ever did at her highest salary in her life and (unless my dad is lying to me), more than my dad earned in any salary, aside from 2 (he always moved jobs, whether his own doing or others).
So to say that, "happiness doesn't matter if you make good money," or, "all the money in the world won't help unless you're happy," again, is making a black and white sitch out of a clearly grey sitch.
Like with everything in life, there must be a BALANCE struck between the two and because money is such an integral part of every day life in 2022 (and beyond, of course), one cannot just turn away money if you're unhappy... but at the same time, you shouldn't just do something you love if it means you're going to struggle living day to day, which can (and usually does) put stress and heartache on your family, friends and those you love: again, a balance is key.
Am I bummed that I'm not in my dream job of being a sports commentator or any job in sports media (I'd've taken anything lol)? A bit, yes. But I am thankful that I have ended up in the career I have, because I have met such amazing people, it has taken me to see the whole country and it has sustained my life/lifestyle and the life/lifestyle of my family. I could very easily quit this job and then do my dream job, but due to the nature of that industry, I'd have to cut my teeth and eat shit for a good 3+ years, before I can see any sustainable income and job stability and with owning a home, having a newborn son and all that those entail, I can't sustain mine or my family's well-being.
I think we see a lot of people get wrapped up in friends/acquaintances, "perceived success," of running their own business/side gig on Social Media (I put it in quotes, as people only show what they want others to see and that is usually the successful, end-game of a ton of hours of sweat, failure and hard-work) and it creates a false sense of, "I can do that too!" or FOMO and then these people quite their jobs they're unhappy in, work these, "dream jobs," then struggle to death because they don't earn enough money to live and then subsequently place a burden on the system (which I'm all for, btw, but that's a discussion for another thread), which in turn affects the economy negatively, etc., etc., etc. Then they are EVEN MORE miserable, since the gig didn't work out and go back to a similar job like before, where their misery gets to an all-time high.
I think the main thing to take from this is yes, we ALL want to do what we love when it comes to work/career "(do something you love and you'll never work a day in your life!)," but 99% of the world cannot do so and thus, we must find the next best thing and make the best of it. It may not be ideal or, "how," we should live, but it is necessary for survival and the sooner the whole world comes to grips with the fact their dreams significantly hinder on luck (which most people don't have), I think we'll see more people who are mature, responsible and accountable for things (not a knock on you, Leroy).
The good news is that you can still do your filmmaking and other loves as said side gig, even if it doesn't make money, you do it for the love of it. That, in conjunction with your job, can help make both even better, as you are earning funds to go towards your love and your love helps keep emotions high when things may be going down at work. Balance
PS: Be positive and do your best, the confidence will then come, trust me: I'm living proof
The questions/discussions you've posed are super grey and it looks like you're trying to make it a black and white situation (I may be completely wrong on that, so my apologies if my observation is incorrect), but I would say your mother's old perspective and new perspective, are both correct.
I'm in a job/industry that I never expected to be in and had no formal training/experience before coming into it (Finance). I'm not over the moon about my job, but I *far* from dislike it and I do enjoy many aspects of it, quite a bit. As for the money, I earn more than my mother ever did at her highest salary in her life and (unless my dad is lying to me), more than my dad earned in any salary, aside from 2 (he always moved jobs, whether his own doing or others).
So to say that, "happiness doesn't matter if you make good money," or, "all the money in the world won't help unless you're happy," again, is making a black and white sitch out of a clearly grey sitch.
Like with everything in life, there must be a BALANCE struck between the two and because money is such an integral part of every day life in 2022 (and beyond, of course), one cannot just turn away money if you're unhappy... but at the same time, you shouldn't just do something you love if it means you're going to struggle living day to day, which can (and usually does) put stress and heartache on your family, friends and those you love: again, a balance is key.
Am I bummed that I'm not in my dream job of being a sports commentator or any job in sports media (I'd've taken anything lol)? A bit, yes. But I am thankful that I have ended up in the career I have, because I have met such amazing people, it has taken me to see the whole country and it has sustained my life/lifestyle and the life/lifestyle of my family. I could very easily quit this job and then do my dream job, but due to the nature of that industry, I'd have to cut my teeth and eat shit for a good 3+ years, before I can see any sustainable income and job stability and with owning a home, having a newborn son and all that those entail, I can't sustain mine or my family's well-being.
I think we see a lot of people get wrapped up in friends/acquaintances, "perceived success," of running their own business/side gig on Social Media (I put it in quotes, as people only show what they want others to see and that is usually the successful, end-game of a ton of hours of sweat, failure and hard-work) and it creates a false sense of, "I can do that too!" or FOMO and then these people quite their jobs they're unhappy in, work these, "dream jobs," then struggle to death because they don't earn enough money to live and then subsequently place a burden on the system (which I'm all for, btw, but that's a discussion for another thread), which in turn affects the economy negatively, etc., etc., etc. Then they are EVEN MORE miserable, since the gig didn't work out and go back to a similar job like before, where their misery gets to an all-time high.
I think the main thing to take from this is yes, we ALL want to do what we love when it comes to work/career "(do something you love and you'll never work a day in your life!)," but 99% of the world cannot do so and thus, we must find the next best thing and make the best of it. It may not be ideal or, "how," we should live, but it is necessary for survival and the sooner the whole world comes to grips with the fact their dreams significantly hinder on luck (which most people don't have), I think we'll see more people who are mature, responsible and accountable for things (not a knock on you, Leroy).
The good news is that you can still do your filmmaking and other loves as said side gig, even if it doesn't make money, you do it for the love of it. That, in conjunction with your job, can help make both even better, as you are earning funds to go towards your love and your love helps keep emotions high when things may be going down at work. Balance
PS: Be positive and do your best, the confidence will then come, trust me: I'm living proof